But many people are brave in spite of feeling fear.It’s like looking into the mirror with this article glad someone gets it…I never understood why two specific people in my life feel like I think im better than them when i feel than im just being me, but this explains alot and now have a better understanding that its not me. As a person with a strong personality, you know how to say no to people, and while they might not like it, you do it because you can. They will treat the quiet ones much differently than people who they perceive as just as intense as they are. Maybe it's a sign that you need to say what you mean, mean what you say, and dump the oh-so-fashionable apathetic, disconnected, disaffected loser attitude in the garbage where it belongs?Let's face it. It’s ok. Pinterest. Or when they do receive recognition, it’s about things they’ve done, accomplishments and achievements, never about who they are as a person.So whenever I’m working with a strong personality, I always make it a point to praise them personally, even for silly things like the new sunglasses they just bought. You’ve put in an amazing amount of time working with Susan teaching her how to sell. I don't get into the nasty gossip like some of my colleagues do because I am too busy yet the irony is management will back them over me because they prefer a clique of lazy workers than one hard worker. Here’s help.I thought long and hard about using the word flatter for this third secret, because it’s so easily misunderstood. Either way, she won't shut up or back off and when I try to "roll with it" I just want to punch her in her unstoppable mouth. Here’s that way: Respond to the bold declarations of the strong personality with an honest, authentic question.Now we all know that the strong personality, like any flawed human being, is not right all the time. And keep asking the question until you reach a mutually agreeable answer.You’re stuck in a tug-of-war with no winners. And, because of the way they respond to feedback, it seems impossible to convince them otherwise. The strong personality will reject these kind of overtures completely and will never trust you again if you use them. Master your interactions with them by utilizing these three secrets—affirm, reframe, and flatter—and you’ll reap rich rewards, both personally and professionally. I have each time stepped back toned my personality down (side note I’ve never been told I’m being rude or disrespectful and I would never do that the only complaint is my personality is to strong) and I’ve felt like things were fine for a couple of months and yet still get told I have to strong of a personality. Not in a month or two, but later in the day or the next morning. GI think a I’m so there in the moment so much so less abit more and a lot less so say smile look I am right here but still see through in the middle I feel my heart break and so deep sorrow leaves open wound such as a hole nowhere to bNobody is fearless. But to also still hold onto myself and not let other people's shortcomings rain on my parade.I am not a predator and I am quiet but I am quiet and intense, which is an issue because I do stand out from the pack. An honest, authentic question—not a rhetorical question or a leading question—disarms the strong personality and diffuses the unproductive cycle of pursue-withdraw-pursue-withdraw-pursue-withdraw.“You’re exactly right, Tom.
I do mean by using the word flatter the very best dimensions of that term: to praise this person, to compliment them, even charm them.His response to you is, “Absolutely no way! There’s no way I want you talking to Susan. When you have a strong personality, you’re not willing to listen to people waste time whining about what they can do. As the old proverb says: Chase the natural and it will comebacl with a vengeance.